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Requiem for a dreamer

Penguins and Johnny Cash. La Femme Nikita and Britney Spears. Buffy the Vampire Slayer and the Facts of Life theme. Abby's eccentric body of vidding work certainly doesn't say everything about her by any means, but somehow it seems like the right place to start.

I'm not the first to say I don't remember for sure when I first met her in person, though I'm fairly sure it was before MediaWest*Con in '98, with her attitude-dripping Cordy impersonation in our Buffy skit for the masquerade, and the chorus of beep beep beeps warning bystanders every time she backed up her chair. If that was the first time, it didn't feel like it, as so often happened with Sunnydale Slayers or FORKNI-L folks, especially after all those "War" adventures with the latter.

I don't remember the name of the author or the book that introduced the notion of modern Western women forming "tribes," or which of the Horsechicks pointed it out as applying to us. My "tribe" is around the intersection of college friends, fandom, and acting, with the Horsechicks a solid chunk of it. When apocalyptic designations were being claimed (I'm still not sure how I got away with Madness all to myself!), Abby dubbed herself the Stable Girl. And for all that she was rightfully known for her wicked and wacky humor, occasionally leading to the nickname being altered to (Un)Stable Girl, she was about as stable as it got. That sense of perspective -- not that the "little things" never bothered her, or that she didn't gripe about them once ina while, but she knew how to keep them in their place. As an old Reader's Digest anecdote I dimly remember put it, she knew the difference between a problem and an inconvenience. And a problem had to be a real problem to qualify, and the inconveniences just weren't worth energy that was better spent elsewhere. We should all be so wise.

That double meaning of "Stable Girl" led to a ridiculous mental cartoon image I've had for years, of the whole giggling gaggle of us piled in an inverted human pyramid on her chair, careening through an unsuspecting crowd, possibly in the dealer's room at a con. (It's only the number that's ridiculous. Just ask neonhummingbird.)

Like others, I see her now, standing tall, striding strong, dancing as she always dreamed. But I have to think she also has the fastest, most maneuverable, most badass hot-rod of a power chair EVER to play with sometimes. Just for fun. And an excuse to beep.

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therealjae
Dec. 4th, 2008 04:35 am (UTC)
That was lovely. It sounds like she was amazing.

-J
wiliqueen
Dec. 4th, 2008 04:02 pm (UTC)
She really, really was.
darkmagess
Dec. 4th, 2008 06:27 am (UTC)
Sounds like it was always an adventure.
wiliqueen
Dec. 4th, 2008 04:03 pm (UTC)
It really was.
deire
Dec. 4th, 2008 06:53 am (UTC)
(((((hugs)))))
wiliqueen
Dec. 4th, 2008 04:03 pm (UTC)
{{{ hugs back }}}
deire
Dec. 4th, 2008 06:57 am (UTC)
Love you.
kirbyfest
Dec. 4th, 2008 01:14 pm (UTC)
::hugs you::
wiliqueen
Dec. 4th, 2008 04:04 pm (UTC)
{{{ hugs back }}}
grammarwoman
Dec. 4th, 2008 07:31 pm (UTC)
I was so sorry to hear the news. She sounds like she was a hell of a friend and a champion of fandom.

Would you happen to have a link to any of her vids aside from the penguin one?
wiliqueen
Dec. 4th, 2008 07:47 pm (UTC)
Not at my disposal atm, but I think something might be in the works. Will definitely post when I have anything.

ETA: Watch this space.

Edited at 2008-12-04 07:49 pm (UTC)
grammarwoman
Dec. 4th, 2008 08:22 pm (UTC)
Oh, excellent - thank you.
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